My Lifestyle

Changing The Narrative | Precious Illusions

Changing The Narrative :  Precious Illusions Click to watch the official video for this song When I first heard this song by Alanis Morrisette, back in 2002, I found myself…

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Leaving The Lifestyle

When I started exploring the BDSM world, I expected to deal with the good and the bad. I expected to face alot of disappointment and frustration. I also expected to…

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Life Lessons | Chocolate Cake

Chocolate Cake Little Timmy got a chocolate cake made for him by his mom for his birthday.  When she wasn't looking, he smeared the chocolate frosting all over his face…

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The Consequence of NOT Speaking Out

There are always consequences for not acknowledging or speaking out against social injustice...   First they came for the communists, and I didn't speak out because I wasn't a communist. Then they…

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The Power of Belief

The Power of Belief Belief is a very powerful thing. It can mold you. Inspire you. And eventually define you. Even believing in a "God" requires the ability to acknowledge…

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Searching…

All of us are doing the same thing... searching for our other half.  I do not mean in the typical romantic sense.  I mean that missing part of ourselves that…

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Interview with Black Sovereign (Part 2)

During the week of January 10th, 2014, I celebrated my 40th birthday with my subs and some friends in Los Angeles, CA. At a winery in the hills near Calabasas,…

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Interview with Black Sovereign (Part 1)

In April 2007, I was nominated as member of the month on a Black BDSM centric site called Dark Connections.  I strongly believe that the nominations came as a result…

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Nigga Moments

I rarely use the word "nigga" anymore to show love towards my fellow brothas... however.  Sometimes, my brothas lose sight of all common sense and rationale when it comes to…

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Slavery is Freedom

Not to be confused with the term "Freedom is slavery", I shared my own original quote in 2014 concerning why slavery is freedom.  It is a conscience decision to give over…

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What does Black Mans Revenge mean?

  A white sub asked me today if "Black Mans Revenge" means getting what we deserve by making whites crave BBC. That's one very small way of looking it but…

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In Life, There Are No Coincidences

Over the course of my life, I've noticed certain irregularities with the concept of time, space and the notion that any and all events that have or will happen are…

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Random Reflections | The Freedom to Choose

Random Reflections | Never give up your pursuit

Random Reflections | Commit to your role

Random Reflections | Slavery is Freedom

New Directions

Since turning 40, this past January, I have reflected on the past 10 years. I remember where I was at age 30 in 2004, contemplating leaving the Lifestyle. Then changing…

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What I Look For In A Submissive

What I Look For In A Submissive   In order to learn, you must listen... All of my life, I have known I was different. I looked at life differently.…

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Rules of Engagement

My Rules of Engagement   There is a right way and WRONG way of approaching a Dominant, like myself. Many subs come off as aggressive and almost demand to be…

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